How to Support Yourself Through Change

Change is the only constant. We need to change our outlooks and actions in order to grow.

So why is it so damn scary and hard?

Because the unfamiliar, also known as the unknown, often causes us to feel unsure of ourselves.

If something sudden changes in your life, like your health or job situation, it may cause you to question…

Am I going to be able to get through this?

Will I ever feel myself again? 

Will I ever be able to find my way again? 

It sucks to hurt or feel blocked from having what you want.

It can feel like your life or dreams are being ruined. It’s a tender place to be, and it can become your sweet spot.

Most of us don’t take the time to understand how we are feeling until we are forced to slow down by a life upset.

Think about it, we don’t generally make changes in our life until something is wrong.

This is the sweet spot. Looking at what is wrong can help your body and your life feel way more right in the end. 

Over the winter, I had been coaching one of my clients to carve out more time for herself in her life. 

When she tore her ACL while doing one of her new favorite activities, skiing, she got totally depressed, wondering what this meant for her and her life. 

“As soon as I give myself something I love, something bad happens. Will I ever be able to feel happy?”

When she was just a child, her dad passed away and she didn’t get the mothering and nurturing she needed to help her through this loss. She found herself comforting and helping her mother, who was struggling as a single parent. 

When a child has to take on a role like that he/she feels powerless because it’s out of order, too adult a task for their level of emotional and mental maturity. 

When you grow up feeling powerless over your circumstances, it’s hard to trust life. 

By nurturing and loving yourself through any upset and being aware of what you want and need in any new circumstance, you can give yourself what you need to heal and to even flourish. 

This is something that most of us could not do as kids. 

When you are able to give yourself what you need to feel better, little by little, repeating this daily, you can change your circumstances.

By recognizing this, my client was giving herself what she didn’t get as a child–emotional support and security.

When you give this to yourself, you can begin to trust yourself and your life. 

If you are planning to make a change, you are navigating what I call, “The Space In-between.” You are likely dissatisfied with how things are, but also anxious about taking the new steps forward to change. 

Even as you step into the unknown, you know yourself.

Even if you are experiencing an upset, you know your strength.

You know what you’ve been capable of in the past.

You have achieved a lot of great things.

You have overcome major obstacles. 

No matter what life throws at you, the most important thing is your state of being. Your state of being creates your circumstances, not the way not the other way around.

Your reality is created from within yourself.

– Willowsoul.com

You get to create your reality in every new moment.

To help you get in touch with your power and your ability to direct change in your own life, I have created this energy upgrade exercise for you.

Let me know how this felt in the comments below. 

And, cheers to your power and freedom to change!