On one of her last lucid days, before my mom crossed over into Spirit, I asked if she had any words of wisdom she wanted to share.
She pointed to the pictures of her granddaughters and said…..
“You have to let people be who they are.”
This profound statement touched me.
Isn’t this what we all want, to be free to be ourselves?
To be seen, heard, and loved for who we are?
Yet, how often have you or I altered ourselves or our plan to ‘work’ for everyone and everything?
As we experience the effects of The Autumn Equinox, I invite you to look at where you are directing your unique energy.
The September Equinox brings the start of Libra Season, a sign of the zodiac that is strongly connected to finding our balance and the flow between giving and receiving in our lives. Libra also represents the self within the other, which is essentially who we become in the many different relationships in our lives.
Are there certain relationships that bring out the best in us? Are there certain relationships that challenge us to grow by triggering our traumas and subconscious behaviors? Are there relationships that are just plain fun that remind us of the joy we have? Are there relationships that feel one-sided or relationships that we have to maintain to stay professional or keep the peace?”
Subconsciously, we often treat ourselves the same way our parents treated us as children, and we repeat past relational patterns as adults.
If you didn’t have the freedom at home to wear clothes that expressed your love of color, maybe you still believe your pink blazer is ‘too much’ for the office?
If your tears were reduced to weakness, do you stop yourself from crying when you feel hurt?
Maybe your family values productivity, so you don’t feel good about yourself unless you cross everything off your to-do list.
So often, we subjugate desires or needs to live up to someone else’s values or standards.
While my mom always encouraged me to do what I loved and to be who I was, she also struggled to manage her own emotions.
I learned to prioritize soothing her and the people close to me in my life before myself.
Taking care of everyone else before myself was one of the contributing factors to having chronic fatigue and also why I put off having a baby for so long.
I couldn’t imagine taking care of a child when I had a hard time taking care of myself.
It took years of doing energy work and feeling its positive effects to begin to know what I needed to feel supported.
Right now, there is an even balance between night and day.
Take this invitation to zoom out…
How much of your energy is spent taking care of others over yourself? Is there balance?
When you consistently diminish your needs and desires, you cannot be your best self, let alone your FULL self: sparkles, needs, dreams, desires, quirks, and all!
So, right now, place your hand on your heart, and ask yourself what you want.
It’s time to tip the scales a touch by giving yourself more energy than you’re putting out.
A simple challenge: set reminders on your phone to ask yourself, three times a day, “What do I want or need right now?”
Your heart always knows the best way forward. ❤️