Happy Monday after Mother’s Day.
I hope all you Moms had a wonderful day yesterday.
Mother’s Day can bring up a lot of conflicting emotions.
With my own mom in spirit, I miss her physical hugs and company.
When my father gave me my mother’s rocking chair after James was born, I was transported back in time.
As I held him close and we rocked, I remembered and felt what it was like to be cuddled in her arms as a child.
Nestled into her chest, enveloped by her love was the most secure place to be.
When I had fallen and busted my knee or when a friend hurt my feelings, my mom would hug me and tell me it was going to be okay.
It was a mixed bag, though.
While my mom was really good at soothing me, she wasn’t so good at soothing herself.
And I learned to focus on soothing her and the people close to me in my life before myself.
Taking care of everyone else before myself was one of the contributing factors to having chronic fatigue and also why I put off having a baby for so long.
I couldn’t imagine how I could take care of a baby when I was barely able to find the time for myself.
Little by little, doing the emotional energy work I teach, I learned to self soothe and to know the benefit of taking better care of myself emotionally.
Flash forward to my son’s first birthday almost a year ago…
One of my clients asked me what I had learned from being a mom.
My answer surprised me…
“How important it is to soothe myself.”
I am not saying that I put my own needs before my baby’s. He was fed and napped on schedule.
But, when he was napping, instead of doing the dishes or any of the other long list of things that had to be done, I made it a priority to do something that nourished me emotionally.
In many cases, I sat down and did energy work to calm my nerves.
Other times, I watched a favorite TV show, danced to songs that lifted me up or listened to an inspiring podcast.
I was better for him when I soothed and nourished myself emotionally.
Through all the ups and downs of the last two years, with my family having Covid, and then my son having serious post viral complications from it, this lesson was ever so clear.
When I didn’t take those moments for myself, I was frazzled, off balance, and unable to be my best self for my family.
As we start this week and move through any of the stresses of Eclipse Season and Mercury Retrograde, I invite you to give yourself more Mother Love.❤️
Can you make the first question you ask yourself when you are upset:
- How can I support myself best right now?
- What do I need to help myself feel better?
Can you start each day asking yourself:
- What can I give myself today to fill my energy and inspiration tank?
- What can I give myself, even if I don’t have much time, to help soothe, ground, or inspire me?
Everything does feel better when you are soothed and supported through it.
A little Mother Love goes a long way. Why not give it to yourself?
Just take a moment now…
- Cross one ankle over the other, right over left, or left over right, whatever feels best.
- Turn the backs of your hands in toward each other, then cross your arms, clasp your hands together and place them on your lap.
- Take three deep breaths as you repeat this phrase three times to yourself:
I can soothe, nourish, and support myself today.
Despite the demands on your time, please hold dear the moments that re-charge, soothe, and support you.
You made it through a rough two years.
Give yourself your own love.
Give yourself what you needed as a child.
Give yourself what you need now.
You, your life, and the people in it will be better for it 😉
So much love,
