How to Let Go of Holiday Guilt



Having trouble saying, “No,” to things you don’t want to do this holiday season?

Or feeling guilty after you say you can’t make it to that party?

Guilt is never in alignment with your highest purpose.

Guilting yourself into doing anything you don’t want to do can be draining and take away precious energy you could be using for other things.

If you are feeling guilt, it is probably a good internal sign that you don’t really want to do what you are intending to do.

And that is the key here! Choice! We all have made sacrifices for our friends and families and done things we didn’t necessarily want to do because we wanted to support someone or make someone happy. And, in those circumstances, we actually chose wanting to please another because it made us feel good to give in that way.

So when you feel guilt, stop and ask yourself these questions:

What do I really want here?

If I do this, what could I be giving up? What is the cost to me or my family?

If I don’t do it, how will I feel? Will others understand? If I am going to disappoint someone, how can I tell them in a loving and considerate way?

Will I feel relieved after I cancel? If the answer is yes, your emotions are telling you the best choice for your well-being.

If the thought of speaking your truth makes you anxious, please do this guilt relieving routine, then use the tips below to decline gracefully 😉

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A graceful way to say, “No,” is to:

  1. Show appreciation: “I was so excited to be invited to your party. Your parties have always been so fun!”
  2. Decline with love: “I am sorry I am not going to be able to make it.”
  3. Thank the person for understanding: “I really appreciate your understanding.”


I know I wouldn’t want you to do anything for me out of obligation or guilt, and I am sure you feel the same way.

With love,



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lara riggio

Lara Riggio is an Energy Intuitive. Her videos, classes, and sessions have helped tens of thousands discover and heal the mind/body, ancestral, and past life blocks which sabotage health and happiness. She is based in New York City, and works out of her Central Park Energy Center in Columbus Circle.