Can you remember a time you had fun with your family around the holidays?
Or is it difficult to think of fun times you have had because all you can focus on is former conflict?
We have all had a less than perfect family holiday.
The holidays have a tendency to bring up family upsets, and I want to help you feel more love and joy this holiday, even around family that may be challenging. Yes, there are some ways you CAN do this;)
Despite your differences, you are energetically connected to your family, and when you are angry or upset with them, you actually reject your own life force, zapping your own power and energy.
At every point in life, you and everyone else in your family, are doing the best you can with the knowledge and awareness you have. So, when people “react” they are acting out their own past patterns or history, and so are you.
So, before you see your family this holiday, I invite you to ponder some ways you can set the stage to bond with them in more satisfying ways.
In my Big Beautiful Breakthrough Holiday Workshop two years ago, I shared some great tools you can use to set the stage for a more satisfying holiday experience with your family, and I am giving you access to it here.
There is a time code, so you can quickly and easily access the sections of the workshop you are interested in;)
In it I share:
- An anxiety and fear releasing exercise to help you acknowledge your power as an adult to make choices which honor your heart versus being reactive to past hurts.
- Strategies for bonding with your family over the holiday in ways that please you.
- An effective way to set boundaries with love and kindness…it even works for narcissists 😉
With these tools, people who attended this workshop were able to bond with their family in ways they never expected possible.
Think about what kind of time you would like to have with your family.
How would you like to feel around them? What activities or topics of conversation could promote those feelings or good times? Think of ways you can connect on common ground or common interests. Or bring up old good times. There are some examples in the workshop.
Think about some good boundaries you could put in place so you can be true to yourself as you enjoy them. There’s a good script in the workshop as well 😉
It’s difficult to say, “no” to family, but feeling bad about getting roped into something you don’t want to do has the potential of driving a wedge between you and creating more upset.
See if you can move into your holiday feeling free from past anxieties. What kind of a time might you have if you could let go of upsets from the past? The exercise at the beginning of the workshop can help free you to have a different experience this year.
Cheers to you enjoying your holiday on your terms!
So much love,