This was a question I asked all my coaching groups because of my own recent reaction to a mishap.
When I couldn’t figure out why this thing went wrong, I found myself obsessively questioning myself, plaguing myself with this questioning…
What did I do to cause this?
What did I do wrong?
While asking this question once can be enlightening and sometimes teach you a valuable lesson, continuing to obsess about it isn’t helpful.
I realized this was a pattern from childhood–when something went wrong in our house and mom or dad was frustrated, I tried to help and figure out what I did wrong.
In many cases, I couldn’t understand why they were so upset.
As a kid, I didn’t understand their adult pressures or their intense emotions.
So if I can’t understand when something goes wrong now, especially if someone else is upset, obsessive questioning is where I go.
Can you relate?
I asked the same question of some of the people in my coaching groups and got similar answers.
I wanted to shine a light on this for you, so you could pay more attention to what you are subconsciously saying to yourself when things go wrong and help you flip your script to a more supportive and positive one.
In the video below, there is a quick exercise to help you retrain your reaction when things go wrong to help you give yourself the support you wanted and needed as a child, that you deserve now.
It is my hope that by doing this exercise a few times, you will have a more supportive script in your head the next time anything goes wrong.
So much love,