Releasing Blocks to Prioritizing Your Needs: Effective Self-Care Strategies



How much are you willing to put up with to get your needs met?

How many things do you need to do before you take care of yourself?

What do you prioritize more, how you feel or what you accomplish?

You would never go on a road trip without putting gas in your car’s tank, right? 

So why is it so hard to take the time to nourish ourselves?

When I asked a client what was in the way of making her needs a priority, she said…

“I grapple with this daily; it’s an internal fight. When I don’t take the time for my morning routine, it’s because my guilt puts something before it, like…. I have to answer emails or I have to do what’s on my to-do list. It’s like….If I don’t get something done, maybe I don’t matter?”

Can you relate?

I am here to tell you…

You don’t have to do anything to deserve your own care and attention. 

When your needs and desires are met, you feel your best. 

And when you feel your best, you can be your best self because you put premium gas in your tank. 

And when you are your best, everyone in your life benefits. 

So what gets in the way of this? Often, it’s limiting beliefs from our past. 

I asked that same client to say this statement to see how it felt. 

I invite you to check in with yourself and see how this feels to you, too…

“It’s safe to give myself what I want.”

How did that feel?

Did it bring up any anxiety or constriction for you?

My client was actually strong for that. It felt true to her.

So I tried the following statement next. Pay attention to how you feel as you read this.

“It’s safe to give myself what I need.”

How did that statement feel?

Any difference in the way your body feels after reading this? 

If you feel any anxiety from either statement, it doesn’t feel totally safe for you to give yourself what you want or need.

Don’t worry, we are going to work with this in the exercise below.

My client got nervous when she said this last statement.

There was an interesting distinction between giving herself what she wanted and what she needed.

She explained that she wasn’t allowed to have needs as a kid.

She recounted her mom saying things like, “You don’t need that; stop being a baby.”

“Buck up, we have to do this first.”

Having needs equaled weakness. Having needs annoyed her mother and made her feel bad when she was a child.

While she was able to get things she wanted, like a specific present for her birthday, she was often unable to get her everyday needs met.

So now, giving herself the care she needed felt strangely threatening. It actually brought up feelings of unworthiness because of her history.

I took my client through my Self-Care Worksheet to help her determine the self-care activities that felt good to her and that she could practically incorporate into her lifestyle.

Self-care is what feels good and nurturing to you. Anything you feel you “should” do and that doesn’t actually feel good afterward, isn’t self-care.

Yes, it is healthy to exercise, but not at an intensity that doesn’t feel good. There are so many ways to exercise that are inspiring and mood-lifting; finding a way to do it that leaves you feeling energized, even inspired, is easier than ever before.

Meaningful self-care gives you energy and inspiration; it is something I now see as important as eating and sleeping.

You would never go on a road trip without putting gas in your tank, right? In the Self-Care Worksheet, you can determine what types of self-care fill your tank and give you the energy to live your best life.

When you get into the practice of asking yourself how the things you are doing feel for you, it is easier to determine what is and is not working in your life. 

If you find yourself feeling drained after a meeting, ask yourself, “What didn’t feel good to me in that meeting? What do I need to feel better in this situation if it were to happen again?”

The energy you are feeling can provide so much clarity.

So please try the exercise below to release any blocks to knowing what you want and what you need. 

What you do in your life is amazing, and you not only deserve but need premium gas/energy in your tank to keep going 😉

If you have been trying to find clarity around what you want or are struggling to get your needs and desires met, I have one spot left in one of my Manifesting Coaching Groups. In each class, you get personalized coaching to help you understand what you want or need in any challenging situation and an energy exercise to help you feel empowered to take action and get your needs met. If you are ready to prioritize yourself, apply here. 

So much love, 


2 Replies to “Releasing Blocks to Prioritizing Your Needs: Effective Self-Care Strategies”

  1. Mindy Dickman says: Reply

    Thank you so much for all the wonderful work you do to support the wellness of everyone!❤️🙏

    1. It is my JOY! Much love to you, Mindy;)

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lara riggio

Lara Riggio is an Energy Intuitive. Her videos, classes, and sessions have helped tens of thousands discover and heal the mind/body, ancestral, and past life blocks which sabotage health and happiness. She is based in New York City, and works out of her Central Park Energy Center in Columbus Circle.