How to Get Your Past Out of Your Way!
Ever have a though, and think, OMG! That is what my mother used to do or say?!!!
While a lot of what our parents taught us was useful, some of it was not.
The world has changed so much, some of what they taught us may not even be applicable any more, but it shaped us, and helped us become successful at what we do.
When I was young, I remember my father always telling me to “be careful.” He reminded me often that I should be mindful, so I wouldn’t get hurt. I can remember him saying, “Now Lara, really be careful, the world out there is a rough place.”
While, being careful has served me, and helps me think of all my options in most situations, I have chosen to let go of “ the world is a tough place” part. When I moved to NYC, I expected the worst, and to my surprise, many people have helped me along my way, and it has never seemed as tough as I feared it would be based on my dad’s words.
On a soul level our parents want us to have great lives, better lives then they have had. They want us to be successful, happy and fulfilled even if they couldn’t be, and that is the emotional root of their warnings and their advice. They want to warn us of the pitfalls they endured to help us avoid them! But, if they are not a part of our current reality, those warnings can be stifling.
Last weekend at The Power Up event my friend and the amazing strategist and coach, Terri Cole invited the audience to think about some fears we may have learned from our parents. Here are the first 3 questions from her worksheet:
- Did your parents view the world as a safe and benevolent place or as a scary or dangerous place?
- What did your parents worry about? Do you worry about those things too?
- Was fear used to control you when you were a child? (Examples: If you don’t do well in school, you won’t be successful. If you go out with a wet head, you will catch pneumonia!)
Any of these sound familiar?
I challenge you to think about anything mom or dad used to say that could be stopping you from having what you want now.
My dad’s fear used to keep me from doing things, until I realized my experience was actually different from his!
I have learned to catch myself when I begin to worry about things my mom worried about like, “I hope we have enough!” I used to over buy household products and food with this mantra echoing in my head. The awareness that this worry is hers and not mine now keeps me from overbuying food that will just rot in my fridge and my grocery bags light!
And, while I believe, “Hard work pays off,” I also believe
– Steve Pavlina
Luckily, my mom also taught me to do what I love too! Working your passion, even if it’s unpaid at the moment can make your labor of love a gratifying career over time!
I also think it takes more then hard work to create success. Believing YOU CAN HAVE SUCCESS; YOU CAN DO IT: IS KEY IN HAVING IT! And, working smarter and NOT JUST HARDER is the key to your greatest success!
So, definitely think about your relationship to your parents fears, because understanding that their fears are not your own, can help you believe your goals and dreams are possible. Once you know what those fears are and how they could be stopping you, you can start thinking and doing the opposite! And, your parents will be so proud of you!!!!!!
To figure out how to work smarter, not harder, I have worked with coaches. You don’t know what you don’t know until you work with a coach who has done what you want to do that can help you look at your business and avoid wasting time and resources, someone to help you work smarter not harder.
Five years ago, I knew I wanted to share the work I was doing with my clients with the world, and take my business to the next level, but I didn’t know how to convey my work’s value online, and I was afraid people wouldn’t understand it and write me off.
Then, my good friend Terri Cole, told me about Marie Forleo and B-School, and Marie just made so much sense of the things I was afraid of, that I decided to try it. After all, there was no risk; there was a money back guarantee, I figured, if I wasn’t getting value out of it, I could just drop out and get a refund. What did I have to lose?
I didn’t ask for my money back! The information I got was too valuable and I am still using it today. And the great part about the program is, once you attend, you have lifetime access to the materials, so you can retake the program year after year.
My first time taking B-School, I wasn’t quite prepared to implement everything right away. But that worked out too, because when I was ready, the materials were still there to revisit. And the materials are updated every year, so the content stays relevant.
I am doing it again this year with my lifetime membership, because Marie is always adding new amazing info, I am in the process of upgrading my site, AND I want to help you stay in action and get the benefits of taking B-School RIGHT AWAY!
Marie’s content and coaching is designed for success. If you do what she tells you to do, you will get results like I did. So, I don’t want you to wait like I did to put all of her amazing wisdom into action. So, I am creating a support plan to help you let go of any resistance to taking action, as it comes up during B-School, so you can get results even faster then I did! And, this includes 2 private sessions with me along with weekly clearings and more! With this material, the only think keeping you from success will be your own resistance to it, so I am going to help you get over that, and be your coach and partner through B-School!
This is designed to help YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT AND TO LIVE INTO YOUR SUCCESS!!!!!
I learned so much from Marie the first time. B-School gave me the courage, inspiration, the structure and awesome title ideas to actually start my blog, dramatically increase sign ups for my email list, identify marketing strategies which made sense for my customers and that actually worked, and the know-how to create a digital product to shift my business online.
And, it touches my heart and surprises me every time I get a thank you email from someone in another country who found me online! It’s a feeling I can’t wait for you to have too!
If you have something you want to share with the world like an idea for a book, the benefits of your own work or business, and you are ready to get online, start a following, market what you do, and monetize it, but you are not sure where to start, I don’t want you to miss this opportunity to work with my online mentor and coach, Marie Forleo to make your dream a reality! Her program B-School only happens once a year, and enrollment ends this week, Wed, March 4th at 3pm!
So if you are thinking about it, and unsure, check out Marie’s training videos here.
I am only taking 10 people on for this, because my time is limited, so if this speaks to you, check it out here NOW! Don’t miss this!!!!!!!!!!
So much love and success!